Since its debut in the 90s, online dating has transformed from a small community into one of the most popular ways to meet new people. It’s not just the scope that has changed – dating sites have refined their algorithms to help you connect with the best matches, and to do so in the safest way possible. We’ve created a few tips to help you find safe dating services, as well as steps you can take on your own to stay safe while dating online.

Rules like ‘wait 3 days to call back’ no longer apply. “If you treat dating and love like a game, someone—or both of you—will end up the loser,” says host of, The Rendezvous with Simon and Kim on iHeart Radio, Simon Marcel Badinter. “If you want to, call back in the next 24 hours. It has to be honest and spontaneous if you want to be respected and start a healthy relationship.”
Dating should be fun and nothing more than a way to meet and get to know another person, who may or may not be fit to share your life with you. “[Dating] is not a commitment. There is no obligation involved with dating. No one owes anyone anything ever,” says Freed. It’s easy to get excited about someone and start planning your future together, but remember that you’re both just figuring out if you even like each other first. Don’t put pressure on things by feeling like you owe each other something, you don’t.
For some people that might mean calling a friend when you arrive at the location and then an hour into the date, although having a friend call you 15 minutes into the date to make sure you are okay is also a good idea. Other suggestions include telling a staff member (such as a barista or waiter) you're on a first date, double dating with friends, or using a safe call app.

Predators come in two types on online dating sites. The first type is looking for a short-term partner — they are likely to abuse you mentally or sexually for a while, and then move on to the next person. The second type may try to use you as a way to connect with your children, and then to groom them for sex. This is every parent’s worst fear, so don’t disclose that you have children or share any information about them until you know the person well ‘in person’. Always be careful if someone shows too much interest in your children. Remember, if you feel uncomfortable about anyone you meet online it is time to move on.
Maybe your past relationships haven’t turned out like you wanted them to, or you feel like every date in the past month was a lemon. Well, get over it. “It’s still up to you to open your heart—and keep it open. This can be scary because you don’t want to get hurt. However, in order to grow and connect, you must be available and vulnerable,” says Mills.

Remember to keep your computer or other device secure. Make sure your computer has a secure password, up-to-date anti-virus and a firewall to prevent someone using the online dating site to access your personal details and computer. Find out more about computer and device security at Stay Smart Online| and our advice on protecting your personal information.


EliteSingles also offers tips throughout the site and blog to help singles improve their visibility and increase the number of matches in their inboxes. For example, EliteSingles says a well-filled-out profile receives 8x more messages than one that's sparsely filled out. People want to know as much as they can about their potential matches, so, on a dating site, less isn't more -- more is more.
With more than 80% of its members holding either a bachelor's, master's, and/or doctorate degree, EliteSingles.com has established itself as the premier dating site for educated professionals — specifically those who are looking for a long-term partner. EliteSingles is dedicated to ensuring that members have a safe, efficient, and fun online dating experience from start to finish. Its Secure Fraud Detection System keeps fake profiles off the site, while its in-depth 200-question Personality Test informs its matches so singles find someone who is compatible with them in every way.
“Many women can confuse sex and sexual desires with a guy’s interest in them. He wants sex, she also wants sex but thinks him wanting sex means there is something more,” says Goldstein. “Explore your sexual boundaries and know where they are and why they’re there.” And, even more importantly, don’t let yourself be pressured into doing anything you don’t want to do just because you want to gain someone’s interest.
At RSVP it is important to us that dating is a fun and safe experience for you. RSVP has worked closely with industry bodies including the ACCC, Stay Smart Online and the Federal and State police for over 17 years. We are committed to providing you with a secure environment to meet people and treat any suspicion of fraudulent behaviour very seriously. As well as continually monitoring the site for unusual behaviour, we manually check every photo on the site and use an array of technologies to detect unusual behaviour or false profiles. Unfortunately, no matter how vigilant we are there will always be a small number of instances where someone makes their way onto the site, even for a short time, with disingenuous intentions.
For some people that might mean calling a friend when you arrive at the location and then an hour into the date, although having a friend call you 15 minutes into the date to make sure you are okay is also a good idea. Other suggestions include telling a staff member (such as a barista or waiter) you're on a first date, double dating with friends, or using a safe call app.
Don't use your real name. Limit the amount of personal information you share with someone you meet online until you get to know them, preferably in person. This means that you should not share your full name, email or home addresses, phone numbers or details such as where you work or whether you have children until you have met them in person many times, and are comfortable they are who they claim to be and are a decent person (as far as you can tell). You should feel very safe with someone before you share any of this.

Use good judgment and be cautious when deciding to click on any URL links. In particular, be aware of links that lead to web pages which look similar or identical to the eharmony homepage, including its log-in fields. These links are typically sent as attempts to “phish” for log-in information from users in order to compromise user accounts. – Not familiar with “Phishing”? Please visit our help pages
It’s normal to feel pressure as you watch your friends get married and have children, but remember that every person’s path is different. “You don’t want to settle down with a guy who’s not right for you. Therefore, release the pressure you place on yourself to lock down your next date as your future husband. Take each date one date at a time and have fun,” says Mills.

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If you’ve found someone you connect with, you’re probably looking forward to getting to know them in-person. Even though you’ve been chatting online and might feel like you know each other, remember that you’re still meeting up with a stranger. Follow these few simple tips for safe dating, and your first date should be an exciting and fun step in your new adventure. 

Profile liars create just that — a profile full of lies. They lie about how old they are, what they look like and even their hobbies and interests. They use disguise to appear attractive, and may do this quite innocently, because they really do think they are like their profile. They may, however, be just really desperate to attract people or they may do it to fool others. Always be wary of people who lie.

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