The gist: The mother of all dating sites (it debuted in 1995, five years before eharmony), Match is a tried and true option with over 20 years of perfecting the matchmaking process. They're actually so confident in their skills that they have an "I Met Someone" guarantee, offering six months of use for free if they don't make love happen for you within your first six months. And it must work to some extent, as they've gained the trust of upwards of 35 million unique monthly visitors, which is the highest of all current dating sites. That's a lot of fish in the sea. If you're feeling down, remember that your person is out there — you just might need help sorting through millions of people.
Your profile isn’t just your first impression, in many ways it’s also the beginning of the conversation you’ll have with someone. If someone’s interested in messaging you, they’ll often go to your profile to find clues and hints of what to talk about, so as you’re writing about yourself think of things you could bring up that will make it easier for someone to come up to you. Whether it’s a favorite book, your relationship with your family, or the fact that you’re planning a vacation, little details they can ask you more about or comment on will make you more approachable. 

I like my artsy with a little bit of fartsy. I love Sundays spent drinking massive amounts of coffee and lingering over newspapers and comics (yes, I read comics). And my Friday nights? Well you’ll just have to wait and see won’t you? Favorite Movie: An American Tale: Fievel Goes West. What can I say? I love that damn mouse and always had a thing for cowboys. Favorite Place: The fort I made in my basement when I was 11. My parents let me keep that thing up for a full eight  months and it was magic. Favorite Food: Cheetos. Puffs. I don’t know what y’all are thinking with that crunchy crap.
According to Judith Orloff’s article about ‘How to attract positive relationships’ on PsychologyToday, ‘The more positive energy we give off, the more we'll receive. Ditto for negativity. It works like this: Love attracts love. Grumpiness attracts grumpiness. Passion attracts passion. Rage attracts rage.‘ A confident, upbeat person exudes charm which instantly makes them more desirable. This is worth considering when writing your dating profile. A good profile is optimistic and fully completed with no empty spaces or one word answers. In order to make your dating profile desirable and memorable, show people what you’re passionate about and where your interests lie.
I have been working on my profile for days. Every time I think it’s “perfect” I wonder what you are going to think of it(me) and will you want to meet me.? So, after another week obsessing over what to write I decided that I was going to tell you who I really am, and even if you go on to the next profile, that’s okay because we all aren’t going to click. First let me tell you about some of my blemishes; I can be a picky eater, I prefer not to argue, I need a lot of affection and I can be a worrier. Phew…. I am glad that is out of the way. The part about my hobbies. I am not athletic, don’t have any collections and prefer not to do daring kinds of things like ziplining. But, I promise you that I am one of the most interesting, curious, down to earth, fun, fascinating, warm, adventurous, caring and humble (LOL) people you will ever meet. The funniest things make me so happy, winning $5.00 on a scratch off lotto ticket, finding my long lost favorite pair of shoes, hanging at an outdoor free concert, and getting an I love u text for no reason! I would do anything for the love of my life. It would be fabulous if you have a huge heart and smile to go along with your quick wit, your inquiring mind, your adorable face and body, and if most of your interests are even different from mine. How about going for burger or frozen yogurt with yummy toppings to see if we click! Talk soon.
We’re all drawn to authenticity and sincerity. You want to make your potential date feel as if you’re talking directly to him or her. That means, the more you can make your online crush feel an instantaneous connection with you the greater the likelihood he or she will want to message you. In your profile, you could even ask a question like, “Are You ready for the loudest screams when we ride a roller-coaster?” or “Wouldn’t it be exciting if we could share our love of museums by going to three in one weekend?” By writing your profile in the same style that you use to chat with your friends, you’ll be giving your potential dates a sneak peek at what dating you would really be like.

Fran Greene LCSW is a nationally renowned relationship expert. Flirting is her hobby, love is her passion, and her dream is for you to have a loving relationship. She has a private practice working with singles who want to maximize their social life and couples who want to improve their relationships. And she’s also an accomplished online dating coach. To learn more about how to get back into the dating world check out her newest book Dating Again with Courage & Confidence. She is also the author of The Flirting Bible.  Visit Fran at www.frangreene.com. 

Our EliteSingles member survey about online dating profiles revealed that the biggest turnoff, according to members from countries all over the world, is sexual innuendo. 23 per cent of members concluded that it is the number one dating profile no-no, followed by negativity (22 per cent) and insufficient description (21 per cent). So when you’re sitting down to write your profile, bear this in mind. Even if you think something is funny and meant lightly, it will not be well received.


Just a small town girl, living in a lonely world…  That’s right, I’m a local girl. Born and raised. I moved away to the city for a while for work but couldn’t be happier to be back in town with a new gig and a bit more experience behind me. I absolutely love sports and am happiest when I’m outside making myself tired. Whether it’s playing in a softball league, going for a morning run, playing soccer in the backyard with my two boys, or tossing the football around, I’m all about it.
Our EliteSingles member survey about online dating profiles revealed that the biggest turnoff, according to members from countries all over the world, is sexual innuendo. 23 per cent of members concluded that it is the number one dating profile no-no, followed by negativity (22 per cent) and insufficient description (21 per cent). So when you’re sitting down to write your profile, bear this in mind. Even if you think something is funny and meant lightly, it will not be well received.
The cost: eharmony is one of the priciest of the bunch: A one-month membership goes for $54.95, but prices go as low as $18.95/month when you sign up for a year. (As a rule, membership prices get lower the longer your commitment to the site is. Which is fine, because a strong connection probably won't magically appear in just one month.) There is a free version, but it doesn't let you communicate with your matches.)
When it comes to online dating, it’s all about putting your most authentic self out there and finding the person who’s interested and into you. You never know what’s going to spark someone’s interest and make them say yes to matching up… It could be that photo of you reading “Howl” by a campfire, how you admitted you love Bill Murray movies, the obscure Calvin and Hobbes quote you added, or a photo of you on vacation in Disneyland with your kids. The same types of little, silly things that can catch your eye when you meet someone in person, can get someone’s attention online too. You just have to be yourself and be open to what comes your way. 
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