All you need to do is come up with a good conversation starter and work up the courage to pay your online crush a compliment. Be specific in your message, so that person knows you aren’t just messaging the same thing to everyone online. By making your first message personalized, you can increase the chances of being taken seriously and getting a positive response.

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If you’ve been on an adventure, are in the middle of a life-change, or have had some experiences that are worth sharing, go for it! Maybe you’ve moved to a new city, recently changed careers, are going back to school, just became a grandparent, or had your kids graduate and leave home. Chances are there are other people out there going through the same thing and you’ll have something to talk about.
Your profile isn’t just your first impression, in many ways it’s also the beginning of the conversation you’ll have with someone. If someone’s interested in messaging you, they’ll often go to your profile to find clues and hints of what to talk about, so as you’re writing about yourself think of things you could bring up that will make it easier for someone to come up to you. Whether it’s a favorite book, your relationship with your family, or the fact that you’re planning a vacation, little details they can ask you more about or comment on will make you more approachable. 
Of course, not all dating sites and apps are totally free. Some have paid features, including the ability to see who’s liked and viewed your profile, that members have the option to get if and when they subscribe. This is an add-on to the basic free membership, so be sure to find out before you join a dating site what features are free and what costs a little extra.
Why it works: If you read the EliteSingles overview and were psyched about the level of specificity and safety but were looking for a dating site tailored specifically to older individuals, SilverSingles is the sweet spot that combines both. A sister site to EliteSingles, SilverSingles uses the same intense compatibility system that EliteSingles does, bringing in the popular big five personality traits to assess five levels of your being: openness to experience, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. If you've heard of Senior Singles Meet in the past, SilverSingles is that same site with a rebrand — so they've actually been working on mastering the five factor model in tandem with senior dating for about two decades. Because SilverSingles wants to ensure that your next relationship lasts, the sign-up process and questionnaires will take some time. AskMen suggests to grab a glass of scotch and sit down for this one. But hey, if having every tiny part of your personality assessed is what it takes to find the happily ever after you've been waiting for, an hour of your time is totally worth it. SilverSingles will only send you five matches a day, and you can't search through a pool of people — but this will force you to seriously consider if you can see yourself with these people. If you were worried about online dating because of the possible creeps out there, don't worry: You can hide or block any member you want from seeing your profile, and can report any user who's acting suspicious or inappropriate. Like EliteSingles, SilverSingles wants their users to know that safety is the number one concern.
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